18 Months

This post will be a bit different, because I could not go on any longer without expressing my extreme gratitude for this little miracle boy we're raising. I am constantly in awe lately watching him and wondering how in the world it is that I got so lucky to have him.

Please don't take any of this the wrong way, I love his sister and she owned my whole heart before he came along, and somehow it just grew bigger to encompass him too. But I don't think it's easy to explain to non special needs parents what it's like to find out the child you've been carrying for 9 months is not going to grow up in a "normal" existence. To have to face reality that she will never walk... Talk, or be that tiny little dancer on the stage you envisioned when you were first told she was a girl. But, I love her for who she is, all crooked feet and hips, tiny nosed, glasses wearing, prominent underbite, communicating in her own ways and proving experts wrong and making her parents proud every damn day! And for 5 years, she was my whole world. Every week was therapies, clinic appointments, sick doctor visits, IEP and care plan revisions, surgeries and another new thing to face. And I thought that would be my days forever, because try as we did, we were not very sure anymore that our family would ever get bigger. After years of trying, facing possible grueling fertility treatments, we had the biggest surprise and another great miracle. 

My pregnancy with him was anything but easy, but I didn't care. Emergency gallbladder removal at 20 weeks, severe bronchitis that resulted in a cracked rib and preterm labor at 30 weeks, thankfully they were able to keep that at bay and he held on for 8 more weeks, and then the most beautiful and perfect delivery anyone could ever ask for. After the trauma of Em's, I cannot tell you how much we needed that perfect delivery, and out he came, breathing fine, crying, eating fine and going home with us, not a single problem.... How did I get so lucky? He was a tough baby, cried a lot and had terrible reflux, but he hit every milestone, and he turned a corner at month four and became the happiest baby, and he brought so much joy to our world. That is why his milestones mean so much to me that I have to celebrate and throw it in everyone's face.... I'm sorry, but not really because I can't explain it to you, but I know it means more... Just like any and every "inch stone" Em hits means more, because you don't see the behind the scenes of what it takes to get her there. So yes he's hitting them with little to no effort at all, but I don't know that there's many that see it as the miracle that I do. He walks, he talks, he can follow commands. He knows what he needs and wants and he learns so much in the span of a day, it is just a phenomenal thing to get to see every day.

Anyway, now I got that out, here's a little update on our little man. 18 months hasn't brought all joy, we sadly found out the hard way when he was about 16 months that he, like his sister, has severe food allergies as well. He had two severe reactions to eggs within a week, one requiring hospital attention. Definitely that was the scariest moment I've ever had with him.... and after all that we went through with his sister, I have to be grateful. But he almost stopped breathing, and I cringe to think how much worse it could've been if I hadn't gotten him to the hospital when I did.



















But last week both he and Em underwent allergy testing together. Em was just a follow-up and her doctor is finally satisfied that it looks like her levels are going to stay put, so he won't put her through it again for at least a few more years. She did however show a significant increase in her reactions to dogs and cats, higher than her reaction to eggs, so we will have to be a little more preemptive when we know she'll be around them. Ry showed a significant reaction to eggs (but that wasn't surprising), but he also reacted to tree nuts. Luckily his blood work, that he also did that day, showed his IGE to the tree nuts fairly low, so the doctor thinks we can test him again in a year, and he thinks there's a good chance he could outgrow it.

I guess I should also announce in the blogging hemisphere that I am actually expecting our third child, a little girl coming in September. She was a bit of a surprise after Ry took us so long to get, but we are thrilled and so excited for her coming arrival..... and we hope her luck will fair a little better than her older siblings in the allergy department.

But here's where Ryker is at 18 months. He walks and runs, but I'm afraid he has completely inherited his mommy's clumsy nature, and he is constantly falling and always has bumps and bruises. He has about 20 words and even has a few 2-3 word phrases as well. Though he may need speech after his evaluation with the pediatric dentists at Primary. He has quite a significant lip tie that is affecting his teeth and affects the way he can use his tongue when talking. It will probably require a procedure under anesthesia, but I'm pretty sure it is necessary to do seeing how it is affecting him thus far. He has 10 teeth now, and four of those are molars, so four in the top front, and still only two in the bottom front. He can open doors.... yikes and is an amazing problem solver, and keeps me constantly on my toes and really wears his poor pregnant mommy out! 

He is FINALLY tipping the scale at 20 lbs 2 oz! Took him to 18 months to reach 20 lbs, but it took Emarie longer, so we're good with that! So he is in the 13th percentile for weight, so finally over the 10th! I remember when it took him so long to get over the 5th! He is 32 1/2 inches which puts him in the 54th percentile, so he has kind of slowed down in the length department, and his head is in the 40th percentile which is just surreal to me! He has always had a pretty small head until recently, and I actually noticed the other night when we were using our new bath visors, that his head is now bigger than Em's, but that's not surprising since her's is around the size of 1 year old's. 

Anyway that's him in a nutshell, but we sure love him and are so enjoying watching him grow and learn everyday! 

                            

You are 1!!!

Dear Ryker,

Today you are one, and in many ways I can hardly believe that much time has passed.... but at the same time it doesn't seem nearly long enough! I cannot imagine our family without you. You have brought so much joy, hope, laughter and love to our tight knit family in one year's time. Hope is a big one. We are experiencing things with you that we never thought we'd be able to as parents. Don't get me wrong, we are so immensely proud of your sister and each and every one of her accomplishments, but there are some things we have had to face that she will probably never do. But we get to celebrate the things we will miss out on with her with you, and I cannot tell you what kind of joy that brings us. 

Here are a few of my favorite things about you at this age :) 

I love how happy you are every time you wake up and I come in to get you up. Your little smile radiates from your whole soul and lights up the whole room literally.... and it warms your mama's heart each time! I am so lucky! 

I love, love, love your curious nature! Even though it causes me a lot of anxiety (like when you try to go down the stairs or climb on top of things!). Your little mind never stops for one minute of the day! You are always trying to figure out something new, and I know you will be very smart because of this. I hope you never lose it! 

I love the way you brush my hair out of my face to look at me when I hold you, this is the sweetest thing, and it lets me know you love your mommy. 

I love when you hear a phone or small device making a noise, you immediately turn it to see it and light up when it is a video or picture. 

I love your crazy hair that I can never seem to keep tamed!

I love the sloppy open mouth kisses that you sometimes surprise me with, or give me when I ask :) But I love if I'm laying on the couch and you crawl over, pull up and plant one somewhere on my head or face, you always seem to catch me off guard and make me laugh, while causing my heart to burst all at the same time!

I love the crazy, expressive faces you make! Most especially your duck face!

I love the way you light up when you see someone you know! Whether it be me, your daddy, grandpa or grandma, or your cousins, you always make them feel very important, you are such a sweet boy!

I love how you light up when you see any young child, including pictures. You love to watch the digital picture frame and get especially excited when you see pictures of your sister, yourself, or your cousin, Adam. It was also fun to see you interact with Adam when he was here with your aunt for a visit. You two really played well together and it's easy to see how you guys will become best friends, too bad they live so far away :( But they're coming again in February, and you both should be walking by then, and I'm sure you both will give your mommies a run for the money while you're together! You also really love to look at yourself in the mirror, surprise, surprise ;) 

I love that you still love your nursing time with mommy.... even in light of mommy trying to wean you, you are making that very difficult because you love it so much. And to think about how worried I was your first few months of life and whether you would ever actually nurse :) 

I love your love of food! Even though you scream at me sometimes if I am not fast enough to get food to your mouth! I love that you will eat pretty much anything, even if it is clear that you don't really like it! I think you make most people laugh when you are eating, and you are always good entertainment for that! 

I love the clear love you have for your sister. It really warms my heart to see how excited you are to see her and play with her. Even when she is a little less than nice to you ;) You still love her unconditionally, no matter how many times she hits you, knocks you over or body slams you! 

I love the way you dance! It makes me laugh EVERY time! And you know it, so that is why you still do it I believe! 

I love how smart you are! You still find a way to amaze me each and every day with the things you pick up on so easily! You have around 8 words at this point and your comprehensive language is amazing! 

I too love your determined nature. When you see something you're after, there isn't much we can do to keep you from it! You will always find something that I try to hide, or find a way in a closed door. Trust me kid, use this determination in the right way, and you will go far in life! 

I love that you are a true momma's boy! And you are so much like your mommy it is scary at times ;) I hope you will always hold a special place for mommy in your heart! 

Now of course, just a few pictures of our squirt highlighting his first year :) 

I sure love you Ryker! So does your daddy, sister, grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins and friends! You are one amazing little boy, and people can't help but love you when they meet you! We are so blessed to have you in our lives, and Happiest of Birthdays to you! And to many, many more!!

Love Always,

Mommy

A few of his stats:

Ryker weighs just under 19 lbs, so about 18 lbs 14 oz

He still doesn't have any teeth, and I'm not sure when they'll make an appearance!

He eats 3 solid meals a day, but still breastfeeds 4 times a day (trying to get that down to 3 though!)

Not walking yet, but standing on his own without holding onto anything, and cruising from furniture to furniture, with maybe a solitary step or two here and there, so I'm thinking walking will come in the next month or two. 

NO known food allergies, which is HUGE!! But, we will still probably get some standard testing done given his sister and daddy's history.

Size 3 diapers, clothing is mostly 9 months at this point, but some 12 month :) Shoe size 2, which is tiny I know, but he is still so much bigger than his sister was, so we are just fine with his size! 

He sleeps through the night, a consistent 12-13 hours, with 2 two hour naps during the day. 

He wears his clothes down to almost nothing with his crazy crawling and he is one fast little crawler! No more army crawling at all unless he is going under something he can't fit under on all fours. Sad about that a little because it was so stinking cute, but happy that I don't have to completely stain treat the entire fronts of his clothes, or throw them out anymore.... now it is just the legs :) 

Only one major illness still to report, which was mentioned in his last update post (hand, foot and mouth disease simultaneous with strep), but he has had quite a few colds. NO ear infections, which is quite miraculous again given his sister's history :)



There you have it! It's been one heck of a year! 

The Nitty-Gritty of Our Hard Summer

*warning, long post ahead*

So.... if you're on Facebook or read the last few posts, you can probably gather that we've had a lot going on this summer. I mentioned in this post that Em would be facing a rather hard summer.... and the reason for that was after a follow-up from her latest sleep study (her daddy went with her for the first time and they had fun, as you can see)

But the follow-up was rather grim, the results were terrible and some of the worst apnea he'd seen, and this was after a floppy voice box repair done last October. This was after a sleep endoscopy that was performed last August and they were sure the floppy voice box repair would fix her problems and prolong their need to do a facial reconstruction (you can read more about that here). 

So a sedated MRI was scheduled, and re-scheduled..... and then rescheduled two more times! This was after a cold and then croup, and forgetfulness. So it didn't happen until August, when initially it was supposed to happen in June.

Around this same time we also were dreading another procedure. Remember how it was mentioned that since Ryker came, Em had been pulling her tube out a lot??..... well, we decided to do something about that, and talked with Dr. O'Gorman about some non balloon port tubes (the mickey button that Em has uses a balloon to keep it in place.... so once it is inserted into her belly, you use a syringe of water and place it in the port to fill the balloon up). There is benefits and downsides to both kinds of buttons, so we researched a lot, and decided that a non balloon was worth a shot. The biggest thing with the non balloons, is they are really hard to pull out accidentally, but if they do come out, it is a lot more painful, and they can only be replaced at the hospital (the balloon ones we can replace ourselves, and they are not without pain to come out or put in, but from the sounds of it, the non balloons are a lot more painful, but again, harder to come out). So Em had a non balloon placed back in April, and for the first day or so, it worked great! But not so much after that, and it began leaking like crazy. And I'm talking really leaking, like she wasn't getting any food at all, and was going through around 10 outfit changes a day! She had never had a problem with leaking, so I called them of course, by this point it was the weekend, so I had to call the hospital and get the on-call gastro. He said since they had to go up in size, she was probably just a bit stretched out and it would take awhile for her to close-off again and not to worry. But when I told him her skin looked terrible, he said maybe we should get in to see the wound team at Primary. So that is what we did, and luckily they squeezed us in that week. Their thought was that the button was too long. They had used the same length as her Mickey had been, but since there is not a balloon to pull it tight up against the stomach (it had a flat disc to keep it in), it was too long. Unfortunately we were already having issues with the insurance covering more buttons because Em had gone through so many mickeys when they were getting pulled out so often (insurance only covers 4 a year, and by April we had already gone well over that), so they didn't think the insurance would cover a change so quickly.... even though, the blame should be on the Dr for putting the wrong size in in the first place! So they gave us some thicker pads to try and get it more taught, and of course many, many creams! But this is when it was first noticed..... a dark spot right near her stoma that they were unsure as to what it was. They wanted us to see her dermatologist about that, and they worked their magic to get her in the next week (Dr. Vanderhooft usually has a 4-6 month waiting list!).... so of course that worried me a little. Things really went south though before we even made it to the next week! So Sunday we headed for the ER..... our reason for this, is that we believe Em had had very little food or drink for 2 weeks at this point, and this is what her stomach looked like

Yeah, I was worried she was getting cellulitis. At the Primary ER, they could all agree on one thing, that button needed to come out.... we had not been able to keep from leaking at all. They couldn't do it then and there though, because they knew it would need to be done under anesthesia, and they neither had a surgeon that could do it, nor an anesthesiologist that felt comfortable with Em's airway. So they made room for her on Monday's schedule at 6 am, and she finally got that sucker out! 

It was easy to see right away what the problem had been, the thing was broken!!! INSIDE her stomach! So not only did they have to take out what they could from the outside.... they also had to go in and remove the fragments from the inside! That dang thing was probably broken from the moment they put it in.... because how it works is, they put it in and then use a tool to crank open the disc, and it probably got broken as they were cranking it.... I felt so bad for my little girl :( 

But things got much better after she went back to a balloon port, and we decided that we would just do our best to keep it in from now on. So we got to the dermatologist later that week and found out that Em had a staph infection in her skin, so they put her on antibiotics for that.... but still the best dermatologist at primary didn't know what to make of that dark spot either, so she thought it would be best for us to see a surgeon and get it surgically removed and biopsied..... yup, panicking at this point! I made no hesitation in making an immediate appointment with Dr. Downey (this is the surgeon that first put Emarie's g-tube in when she was 3 months old). They were able to fit us right in because apparently they had already received a fax from Dr. Vanderhooft.... great :/ And at that appointment, the C word was used..... I could hardly believe my ears..... Cancer? Really? Could this girl possibly have that when she deals with so much else?? I was downright angry! This was most certainly not fair!! He said he wanted to remove and biopsy it as soon as he possibly could..... he could do it the next day at Utah Valley..... too bad that was no go! There is not an anesthesiologist that will touch her outside of Primary. So he asked his nurse when the next time he would be at Primary would be, and it was the following week, but she said they were full.... he looked at the schedule and said, "bump him, this is more important to get done."...... WTH??! You can imagine how this is all making me feel like everything is collapsing around me and I can't breath or focus on anything..... the world stopped spinning, everything disappeared.... all I could see.... hear.... feel.... was my baby might have cancer. 

And of course this happened smack dab at the same time that she got croup and whatever else! So that awful procedure had to be rescheduled again and again as well.... but we finally faced it in July, and then let the facebook community know what was going on with this post:

Sorry for the picture overload, but we had a hard time choosing (and you can probably see why!). Our cute little "Super Girl" would truly appreciate your thoughts and prayers this week as she has some big deciding procedures (one on Wednesday and the other on Friday). I have hesitated to say what these are before now because it increases my stress over it.... but on Wednesday this sweet girl will undergo her 20th surgery for suspicions of cancer, please I am asking to not be bombarded with questions on this now, since I am already freaking out. The procedure on Friday will be a sedated MRI to see if she is going to need that dreaded facial reconstruction much sooner in her future than was previously anticipated. We really would like a good outcome from both of these procedures as you can imagine, thanks in advance my wonderful friends and family

So the sedated MRI didn't end up happening that week because we forgot to turn off her feeding at midnight.... out of well over 21 anesthetic procedures, that is the first time we've ever done that.... so although I was really frustrated, mostly because of the previous procedure though.... I had to hand it to myself, that that is not bad! So she had the MRI in August.... and sorry I know this is getting really long, but bear with me! 

Here are some pictures from the biopsy, and yes she wore her super hero cape into the OR! 

And well it took over two weeks, but we finally got the results that amazingly (even with 95% assurity that the results would be malignant) the mass was benign!!!!! So that was one hurdle! 

This was the very spot and moment where we received the news! And doesn't Ry just look too cool for school in this picture! 

After her MRI. She usually has a hard time waking after these types of procedures because they use an anesthesia that induces a more natural sleep. 

But fast-forward to August when she had her MRI, then a couple weeks later, her follow-up, where come to find out, they would like to try another tongue reduction and they think this could offset the need for a facial reconstruction for a few years *big sigh of relief*...... until I get a very detailed (with pictures) description of what a real tongue reduction is, and it sounds horrible. It is a very tricky and potentially dangerous procedure, with a significant chance it might not even help. She will have to be intubated, spend a few days in the PICU, and have a possibility of up to 2 weeks total in the hospital, but knowing my little girl, it could even be longer. All this coupled with the fact it might not even do what they are hoping it will..... well you could imagine my hesitancy, but I went ahead and set a (tentative in my mind) date for October, cried the whole way home and then got my big girl pants on and set straight to work when we got home. I researched and couldn't find much, so then I did the next best thing (actually probably the best thing and what I should've done first) and consulted the true experts.... the parents..... the special needs parents to be more specific. So I posted on the Ch18 FB page and two other general special needs parenting pages. No one had ever heard of this procedure, but all agreed it sounded scary, and there seemed to be a consensus that I should seek another opinion (which I was already planning), but thankfully the Utah Kids page was able to give me a few options of doctors that we could get a second opinion from. I also asked Em's (and Ry's) wonderful pediatrician at Ry's 9 month appointment and he too recommended a doctor that a lot of other parents had recommended. So I made an appointment and luckily they were able to squeeze us in October 5th, a mere 3 days before the suspected surgery date.

Sadly, the world collapsed again a few days later when I got a call from Dr. Muntz's surgery scheduler saying that they could not get the pre-authorization from the insurance because she was told our insurance had terminated. *Panic* "That has to be a mistake" I tell her..... though I'm sure she can hear in my voice that I'm not so sure, but I told her I would check on it and give her a call back. But my worry was completely confirmed when I went to the pharmacy later that day to try and pick up Em's vital Singulair and was told the same thing by the pharmacist.... we no longer had insurance. And this is the point that I had a very public panic attack/meltdown and had to leave without getting that precious medication. And the next day is when the letter finally came saying that our coverage actually ended at the end of July, which means all those procedures that happened in August were not actually covered :/ You can probably gather why this may be a big deal, but one little thing is Em can certainly wrack up nearly $10,000 in medical expenses monthly between her medical formula, her feeding tube supplies, her medications and therapy and clinical visits that happen on a monthly basis. And this is a good month, that doesn't include sickness, or surgeries, or hospital stays that come with both of those often. So we cannot be without insurance, but what do we do? There's Medicaid, which we have been denied for at least 3 other times, but it's pretty much the only hope we've got. So I have been working like crazy to get that process going yet again, but still have a lot more to do, and it can take awhile to get approval, even though it will retroact to when our insurance ended at the end of July. Thankfully because the amazing friends (really family) and network we have, we will be taken care of as far as formula and supplies go for a bit.... did I mention how much I love the Utah Kids group?? As well as certain Ch18 family that have come to our aid as well. Aside from the Singulair, thankfully I had refilled a lot of 3 month supplies of Em's medications before this all happened, so we should be ok there for a bit too.

I won't think about what will happen if we don't get approved for Medicaid, hopefully CHIP will be the backup, and the only backup we'll need. We cannot get on private insurance because all of us (save for Ryker) have pre-existing conditions. Our only options before were group plans. Sadly Steve's work had to stop offering insurance in 2010 (thanks mostly to us most likely, because after Em was born, United Healthcare raised the companies premiums 25% each period, and there came a point where the company could no longer afford it for everyone), but they pay into his salary what they would've put toward insurance. So when our coverage ended through Steve's work, we had to go with my work's group plan, and since I wasn't a contracted employee, we had to pay the full premium, which wasn't cheap (but $1,500 is better than $10,000!), so that is what we've been doing since then, and one of the major reasons we were forced to sell our home and be renters/squatters since then ;) But of course I quit my job with the school back in November when our sweet little Ryker was born, so we knew our coverage would eventually have to end, we just thought we still had time.... stupid, I know!

But we have had so many people offer to help us in this crisis mode! I have learned some good connections thanks to more advice from the wonderful parents in the Utah Kids group (very lucky to have found that group!). I am also in contact with someone to get Em on the DSPD wait-list.... sadly all of these programs that are offered are so hard for the people that really need them to get them. I had a caseworker help me with the paperwork for Medicaid, which I remember was a nightmare the last few times I've done it, and I don't know how people are able to get it so easy when they make it nearly impossible to apply! If it weren't for this caseworker's help, I am sure it would have not gotten done as quickly, nor as efficiently. She has also taken sympathy on our situation and thinks we have a real shot, so keeps us in your thoughts and prayers if you so wish.

After all that, I'm sure you'll be surprised to know that the summer hasn't been all bad! We've been swimming, and jumping on the tramp, and playing, and vacationing in Park City (still hoping to get a post done about that, but again, don't hold your breath!).

Playing in the backyard with the cheapo pirate pool I got for $6

And then we decided to get a "real" pool when we saw pictures of our friends The Wolfs in a pool like this, I knew Em had to have one! We got it from Amazon BTW.

And this is when we went to Cowabunga Bay for their "Autism Night". They rented out the whole park and all special needs families were invited to come, it was only $5 a person, and that included admission to the park and dinner, as well as other goodies they were giving out to everyone. Too bad it started to storm right at the time we were going, and it was a bit cold! But thankfully the water was warm and the kids didn't seem to mind too much! Both of them went down some big slides with mommy and daddy's help :) 

And then there was this amazing thing, where we got to share our miracle girl with the world! Thanks to the help of Joanna Rudnick, Kartemquin films, Rick Guidotti and NBC's Rock Center. This was amazing! Click the picture below to be taken to the article and clip of the profile they did on the amazing Rick, that features a very cute, 18 month old Em! 

So that was our summer in a nut shell, and also I have started a new job that I can work from home :) I am working on the customer assistance team for the car dealership Ken Garff as a call grader. I listen in to the recorded calls and grade the ones that are sales related, and determine other things for the ones that are not sales related. Basically my job is to make sure the customers that call in are well taken care of. I have to send a lot of emails out to others in the dealership, and listen to a lot of funny things! Just a fair warning, when you hear that familiar saying that, "This call may be monitored for quality control purposes.".... just know that the entire call is recorded.... when you're talking with the person, when you're holding and even before the call is even answered! And someone IS listening and just might have grounds to laugh at you ;) 

7,8..... and mostly 9

As you can gather, I haven't been the best about giving monthly updates for our little man, but we still have been taking pictures of him when he hits his monthly birthdays, so I will just give you those and then this will mainly be a 9 month update.

Month 7

Between months 7 and 8, while we were in Park City, Ryker got his first ever haircut... which sadly he already badly needed! The cute girl that cut his hair is Steve's youngest brother's girlfriend, Melissa. And the other girl helping in the picture is their friend Morgan. They did such a good job!

Month 8

And now onto Month 9

Milestones

Crawling- This boy has been army crawling since about 5 or 6 months, and he got so fast at it, I really thought there might be a chance he would never really crawl. But he does that too now, started in about month 8 somewhere, he started using his hands and knees to crawl, but still prefers that army crawl, so that is what he does most of the time, and looks like a little lizard in the process ;) And I am constantly stain treating the belly, legs and arms of his clothes.... no matter how clean you think the floor is, somehow he seems to swiffer it for us, so I affectionately call him "swiffer" from time to time ;) 

Pulling to Stand- Like sitting he did not like standing at first, so was never really making any progress in that area. But he came to love sitting and had it down within an hour once he decided he liked it. Same with standing, it was like overnight and then he was doing it with amazing proficiency! He has even gotten to the standing position without anything to hold onto once or twice, so we may have a walker on our hands soon.... which I am SOooo not ready for!

Talking/Babbling- This little guy definitely knows what "mom" and "mama" mean now and he uses them A LOT! His preference for mommy has not changed and it is pretty common to hear him call out "MOOooooouuuuuuhhhhhmmmm!" Anytime of the day! He also uses the word "baba" for any food. So if he wants to nurse, it's "mama baba, mama baba, mama, baba" over and over. When I sit him in the highchair, he states "baba" over and over until he gets something in his mouth, and then it's "MMMmmm!" He'll still say "dada" and other things like "hi" once and awhile too, but the first two mentioned I believe he is using with real intent. 

Dancing- This little guy also just started dancing one day a month or so ago. It was so cute!! Singing too! I have yet to catch this on video, but he will sing now too. Particularly with this toy guitar that Steve's mom has, it is a Backyardigans one and he will crawl over to it, put his hands on it to make it make music and he'll rock back and forth and sing in coo, it is adorable! 

Clapping- I too have not been able to catch this one on video, but he started clapping somewhere in month 7 or 8. So funny, because he does it all the time, you'd think I'd be able to catch it at least with my phone! 

But I do have this little dealy too :) 

He does this little trick all the time too, and usually much better than what I caught on video, and he knows it's pretty funny!


Sickness
Sadly I have to report that this little guy had his first real taste of what it is to be miserably sick :( You can even see a hint of it in the 9 month picture above (a few left over blisters on his right foot), and he was actually pretty miserable for that picture, yet he was so good to smile! But somehow this poor little boy caught both hand, foot and mouth disease (that's what caused the blisters) AND strep! My poor baby was so miserable for about two weeks with the sickness, and the antibiotics he was on gave him tummy issues, which prolonged the miserableness. It was just all around awful and so sad to see! For four days he had a fever over 103, mouth sores and a really sore throat, so he wouldn't eat much for about two weeks. During the first week, Em was also sick with the stomach flu, so I had quite a task keeping everything sanitized and the two of them apart. But despite my best efforts, Em got hand, foot and mouth as well. And although her blisters were much worse and covered her whole body, she didn't have any sores in her mouth, no fever and no strep.... so it hardly seemed to affect her at all (and that's my girl!)


Eating
Aside from the time he was sick, he is doing great in this area! I have "fun" making all of his food with my Baby Brezza (as mentioned in his 6 month update), and he is trying a variety of foods all the time. I know the things he doesn't care for, but thankfully what he does like far outweighs what he doesn't! He really wouldn't eat any vegetables or finger foods the whole time he was sick, but he would eat fruit, and I really was surprised he'd do anything than just breastfeed. But now that things are back to normal, he is breastfeeding 4-5 times a day and eating 3 full meals with snacks in between. His favorite in the vegetable realm are definitely sweet potatoes (really yams), and yesterday I tried a new recipe with sweet potatoes, leaks and parsnips and he loves it! It actually smelled pretty good when I was making it, so I tried some and I even thought it was pretty good! He also loves peaches (but they are my least favorite to make because they're so hard to cut and they're slimy and messy! I finally figured out that it reminds me of cutting raw chicken and that might be why I detest it so much!), and mangos. He loves to drink anything, but I mostly just give him water in his sippy (but we did have to do a little pedialyte when he got so dehydrated during his sick time).


Clothing
Most of what he wears is 6 months, though he still fits in a few 3-6, and then there's a few 6-9's and 9 month clothing (which is all too big around him, so pants won't stay on as he's crawling, etc). Diapers, he is still comfortably in a size 2, but we're about out again and I have a ton of 3's, so I may try them and see how it goes.


Growth

Weight was just over 16 lbs, which put him in the 3rd percentile. A little frustrating since I know he lost a bit of weight when he was sick, but it's ok, he is just our string bean!

Length was 28 1/2", which puts him in the 62nd percentile.

Head circumference was 17", which puts him in the 17th percentile.


So that's our little munchkin at 9 months! Next update will probably be clustered again since this one took about a week to complete with my busy schedule!

New School, Loads of New Progress!

Emarie has been attending preschool for the last 3 years in Provo district where I worked. But as of November when sweet little Ryker was born, I have quit working there. It got really hard to take her and pick her up each day, especially considering she was only there about 3 hours a day. So we talked seriously about placing her in Apline district where we are now living. This was an extremely hard decision to come to because I know everyone at the school and in the kindergarten class she would have gone to in Provo, including the children, who were the same she'd been going to school for the last 3 years. I know how they do their IEP's, they have all known my girls since before she was born, they love her..... It was really, really hard to even think about her going anywhere else.... But we decided we'd just check things out and found out she could go to one of 3 schools:

Dan Peterson- an all inclusive school in American Fork, meaning it is a school just for special needs children and all the way up to 22 year olds. 

Hillcrest- a typical elementary school that has self contained classrooms.

Orem Elementary- same as above ^

We have had a few incidents that have persuaded us to think about placing Emarie in an all inclusive school. She never had any bad experiences at her preschool even though she was around typical children there. But that is part of something I have always known, children will see disabled children no differently if they grow up and are around them regularly. So that is one strong point to keeping her in a regular ed school.... but does that always benefit her? 

We went school shopping well before we decided anything

 Her backpack was her favorite thing we got at Target that day, and she hugged it all through the store and all the way home! And she still hugs it on the way to and from school everyday! Though she had a bit of a tough time deciding between this one and Minnie Mouse, I'm pretty sure she's confident in her decision with Rapunzel ;) 

And here she is will all of her school stuff.... she actually picked out her first day outfit when we were in Park City at the end of July (don't hold your breath, but still hoping to do a post about that!)

So we decided to make an appointment to just go look at Dan Peterson, and after that we were completely sold! They have a sensory room that Em absolutely loved! They also had an all adaptive playground that is all wheelchair accessible and she loved that too. 

 My two cute kids enjoying their swings! FYI it was another 100 degree day when we went, so we stayed out there as long as we could stand.... but it wasn't very long (Utah has had the hottest summer in history, with over 20 days of record breaking heat, and July held more days over 100 degrees than under :P)

The principal there was someone I could see myself being friends with and she had taken the time to find out about Emarie from the preschool before we came that day, which I don't know many principals that would do that with their busy schedules! They also have 3 full-time nurses there everyday, which put me at a lot more ease knowing I wouldn't have to worry so much about her allergies and asthma, nor her feedings. 

So it was a snap decision.... our tour was Wednesday, we did her IEP and special healthcare plan on Monday, and she started for the first day of school on Tuesday (the 20th of August). Here are some pictures of her first day :)

The traditional front porch shot, she was eager to get going, so wasn't very cooperative for these

But thanks for the subtle smile Em :) 

This is once we got there, and again she was eager to go inside, so she wasn't having it! I love this outfit she picked out at the Carter's outlet in Park City

This is once we got in her classroom, she was a little nervous, but that really didn't last long!

This was her teacher trying to ease her nerves by asking her to help her set up their next activity.

So they want her to be there all day and she will be in full-swing with her services, did I mention they have a pool for PT??! But since she was only use to being at school 3 hours a time and 4 days a week, I thought it best to try and ease her into it.... So the first week she started at 12:30, which sadly was only one day because she woke up the next day with the stomach flu and her little brother got hit hard with strep and hand, foot and mouth disease! We still aren't sure how or where he got so sick, but there'll be more on that later.... 

So the next week was when she finally had her second day and she started going at 11:30. And next week she'll be starting at 10:30, and the week after that will be full days and hopefully she will be on the bus both ways by then. I am still having to take her and pick her up at this point because we didn't get her info in enough time for her to be on the bus right away, but I'm told they're working on it, so hopefully after labor day sometime that week she might start going home on the bus. 

Her second day (which was the next Monday), her teacher told me that she used verbal communication and said the phrase "red star" during a shape game they played. This was not a repeat of something she'd heard, this was her telling them which one she wanted..... So this was not only saying clear words (that all the adults in the room understood mind you!), but it was knowing what color red is, and what shape a star is! I know my girl is smart, but unfortunately not many are privy to see that..... it took her until year 3 to say a single word in preschool! She signed, pointed and communicated in other ways before that, but 3 years before she spoke a real word in school..... day 2 at this new school and she said something I've never even heard her say! More solidarity that we made the right decision.... but hold on until you see what day 3 brought....

This is something her teacher showed me on her third day of school. She handed it to me and said, "Obviously she has been worked with and taught how to write her name, but we never saw any info on that in her IEP....." I was blown away as I said, "You mean..... she did this by herself??" And then there was shock on her face..... I told her she has written her name with lots and lots of help (hand over hand type help), and then we both had tears in our eyes. This is proudly being displayed on the fridge! 

So I'm sure you will be seeing much more amazing things from this girl, I am really excited about this year! 

Emarie's Preschool Graduation

After 3 years of preschool, my sweet girl finally graduated. It was a bittersweet day and I was flooded with emotions, not just because my little girl is growing up, but also I was thinking a lot about all the things she would be facing this summer.... I couldn't help but feel a twinge of jealousy as I heard other parents talk of plans of vacations, trips to the water and amusement parks, camping and other fun summer activities. And thanks to this missing DNA of Em's we are facing a lot of horrors this summer. I will probably finally get into all that in a coming post. 

So Em and her cute little class performed a couple of songs, and then they were each presented with a graduation cap and certificate. Mommy bought her a special graduation balloon and lei that I surprised her with when I came. Daddy was able to come too and Em was over the moon about that!

Here's some pictures of the day

 Singing songs

 Walking back after songs and then walking back after getting her "diploma" and cap

 All her family that was there that day

Her teachers, top L, Miss Molly, Top R, Miss Kelly and Bottom, Miss Brenda

She had a great year and accomplished more in her last year of preschool than the entire 2 years before that! 

Here's just a fun little picture I put together to show her first year of preschool at 3 years old, to her last year of preschool at 5 years.

Sadly this is the day Em started to head south with her health and got sicker than I believe she has ever been in her life (which is really saying something!), which caused her to miss the very last day of school, and put her in the ER later that week where we would find out she had croup, which also made it so we had to reschedule her two vital procedures (part of the horror of the summer we are looking at).  It took her quite awhile, but she is finally getting back to herself and we now have the procedures rescheduled for the middle of July. 

My sweet Ry at 6 months

So yes, I know I never did a 5 month update.... and the reason for that is because we never got his picture taken. The day he turned 5 months was the day my cousin got married and we were too busy that day, so we made plans to get it done the next day, and that was when we blessed him finally, so again it didn't happen.... then every time after that, something would come up and well by the time it really came to it, he was over 5 1/2 months, and I just thought it best to forget it. So come time for his 6 months, we made sure to get it done THAT day! So this will kind of be a combined update, and I will be doing a post about his blessing too, so it will all work out.

Milestones

-Rolling- He rolled from his back to his tummy a few times long ago.... but only in a fit of rage ;) He then mastered rolling from tummy to back by 4 months.... then somewhere in month 5, he became pro at both, and now at 6, he uses it as a good way to get around.

-Scooting and Crawling- Like I said he is starting to get around places! And it's amazing to me that I can put him on a blanket on the floor, go into the next room for less than a minute and he will be on the other side of the room! Don't worry, there is no danger to him and I never leave him for long! So he mostly scoots, rolls and then he does a bit of army crawling to get around.... and I am sure we will see some real crawling very soon! 

-Sitting- It seems as though he doesn't really like sitting, he really prefers to be on his belly because that is how he gets around the best. But he is a great supported sitter and can sit unassisted for short amounts of time and gets better every day. I think he would already have it down if he didn't get distracted and then fall onto his tummy to go check things out. He is already very busy! 

-Babbling- He has quite a few sounds down pat! "Momma" "Dadda" "lala" "baba" and what sounds like "I love you". I love hearing his little voice and watching him figure things out by using it. I don't think he knows what it means, but still definitely makes my heart skip a beat when he calls "Mamma" on the monitor when he's ready to wake up. You will see and hear on the video below :) He also can click his tongue, but I still have failed to catch that on video.... but hopefully soon! 

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-Bearing Weight- has thankfully gotten much better! He did not like his legs much either at first, and only used them when he was mad.... are you noticing a pattern?? Steve's wonderful sister lent us the jumping toy he is in in the video above, and I believe that is what we can ultimately thank for his now found love of using his legs! 

-Showing preference for mommy- I both love and hate this. Daddy was always Emarie's favorite, and so when daddy was around, she couldn't care less if mommy was or not, which was sometimes hard on me. Now Ryker only wants his mommy a lot.... especially when needing comfort. So it has been hard for other people to watch him, and I always feel bad when I come to pick him up and he has been crying non-stop until he is in my arms. It also is hard when I'm home, but need to be doing things... he will let others hold him, but if he sees or hears me, he'll cry and reach for me. Hopefully he will not always be so clingy to me, but I'll hope he'll at least be a little bit clingy for mommy his whole life.... is that so much to ask??

Eating

So happy to report how much better this area has gotten since his last update! Since his four month appointment, I made an executive decision to stop bottle feeding him breast milk, and just exclusively breast feed. It was a lot of work and very hard with Em's crazy schedule, but we did it, and it has made for some vast improvements! He went from the first percentile at his 4 month appointment, to just under the 5th (4.91 percent to be exact) at his 6 month! And he's gained nearly 3 pounds since then! So I definitely think I made the right choice! 

We also started solids 5 days after he hit six months, and we began with a real "Ry pleaser", avocado! Yeah, he loved it! Nearly ate an entire 1/4 of an avocado like he'd been eating all his life! And today he had baby oatmeal for the first time.... which didn't go over as well as the avocado, but we'll try mixing it with something flavorful for next time. I am very excited that I purchased the Baby Breeza Prima from Williams Sonoma, I haven't used it yet, but looking forward to trying some fresh green beans in there as soon as our four days are up from the avocado (have to be careful since we are a food allergy family!). So I guess his reflux is still a problem, but it has gotten a lot better, he mostly just throws up toward the end of the day and his Dr thinks he will likely outgrow it by 9 months, and that is when he'll want to try taking him off the prevacid. But all in all this area of his well-being is great!

Picture on top and the left are his first taste of avocado, and then on the right was his first time with oatmeal, he was a bit distracted when we did this which resulted in it getting all over his face, including his eyes! But as you can see, he didn't seem to mind ;) 

Growth

Weight- 14.57 lbs which puts him in the 4.91 percentile.... or 5th as we're calling it ;) 

Height- 27 inches which puts him the 67th percentile

Head Circumference- 16.6 inches which puts him in the 16th percentile

Now as far as clothing goes. He can only wear a few 0-3 month things (mostly onesies), but mostly he is in 3-6 month and even a few 6-9 month depending on how the sizing runs. We are in another diaper dilemma at the moment though, and are limboing between sizes again. For the most part we have a system worked out. So during the day he is wearing size ones, and at night, I am doing my best to make a size 2 fit with whatever means and materials necessary ;) But it has worked, and we haven't had him waking up due to soaked clothes! 

Teeth?? No teeth as of yet, but it feels like there might be some coming in sometime. As well as all the classic signs of a teether, including low grade fever once and awhile, runny nose, increased drooling and wanting to chew on EVERYthing!! 

So they were very impressed at his check-up and after being assessed, he is above average in every area of development! ...... Well, except for growth, but he's made progress and they are not worried anymore, so that is all that matters! 

We sure love this boy!!